We all need to feel we have a deeper purpose in life. I often hear from many women who share their struggles and stories, relaying how they feel they’re not enough. Through their eyes they minimize their worth by believing they’re “just a… (mother, wife, employee, etc)”. They want to feel they’re something bigger, greater, more than being “just a …”. So if you are feeling stuck and looking for a life of MORE, then here are 3 steps I walk through when I’m feeling that way and I need to re-center
1. What is my story?
Do you have a picture or memory of a younger you? Get that old picture out or recall that memory and talk to it. What would you tell that little girl/boy? What would you ask? Have a conversation with her/him.
Here are some questions to consider:
- What have I done to make you the proudest?
- What have I done that gave you the most excitement?
- When you’ve dared the greatest, what have you learned?
- What can I do that would make our life the most meaningful?
- Are you happy? What makes you happy?
2. What are my personal core values?
Identify 3-5 personal core values that make you YOU. Your core values are anything that are instrumental to determining what represents you. Don’t choose more than 4 or 5, because if everything is a core value then nothing is really a priority. Here’s a list, although not exhaustive, of some ideas.
Authenticity Citizenship Friendships Knowledge Poise Spirituality Achievement Community Fun Leadership Popularity Stability Adventure Competency Growth Learning Recognition Success Authority Contribution Happiness Love Religion Status Autonomy Creativity Honesty Loyalty Reputation Trustworthiness Balance Curiosity Humor Meaningful Work Respect Wealth Beauty Determination Influence Openness Responsibility Wisdom Boldness Fairness Inner Harmony Optimism Security Compassion Faith Justice Peace Self-Respect Challenge Fame Kindness Pleasure Service
To help you answer these questions, I made you a guide. It will help you re-center and find your true greatness. Get it now below!
3. Identify your non-negotiables.
We all have values, those are important, but you also need to know what your non-negotiables are. What in your life is not optional? Have you clearly identified that? If you have, then great. But if you haven’t then I encourage you determine what your imperatives are in life that you will not budge on. It may be your faith, ethics, loyalty, honesty, respect… whatever the case may be, know what your non-negotiables so you don’t simply get carried along through life by the influence of your surroundings.
If you have a story of how you’ve found your purpose- let me know! I’d love to hear your experience and feature it in a future article.
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